When children get married it is time
for them to have their own privacy and independence. It is also a time for parents to have their time alone. A
retirement community lets seniors live their own life-style while living
separately from their children. This breeds good relationships
children and parents. Visits are enjoyed. Parties and celebrations
are delightful. At these times they truly enjoy their togetherness.
A retirement community relieves children of the daily responsibility of
aging parents, takes away their worry about parents when they are at work.
It is a blessing for parents to feel they are not a burden on their
A retirement community provides for all the necessities (and luxuries) of
residents - health clinic, with a nurse on duty, security, dining room with
balanced meals, exercise classes (also an exercise room), library, gift
shop, beauty shop, in-house therapist, entertainment.
Transportation is provided for medical appointments, trips to the grocery
store, movies, special events in town, cultural events, points of interest,
While parents feel their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren
are the love of their life, they still have a life beyond their children.
Older people enjoy being with their peers who relate to their generation.
In a retirement community one need NEVER lonely. While there is privacy in
the apartment, a step outside the door is someone who would enjoy a
conversation . There are game rooms where bridge, rummikub, and other games
are enjoyed, a coffee room, lounges where friends meet, make plans and
I have lived at King's Bridge Retirement Community since 1985. Relieved of
most of my responsibilities, these twenty one years have been some of the
most rewarding, stimulating, productive and enriching times of my life.
A majority of Indians are accustomed to living in joint families. It is quite normal to find three generations of family members living under one roof. In cases where older parents arrive from abroad in a new country, they are less likely to be intimidated by unfamiliar surroundings if they move in with their grown up children, than living alone in a retirement community. More so, where the older parents have severe health or language problems.
Indians have strong value system. Senior parents feel duty bound to care for their children and grand children regardless of their age. Conversely, grown up children consider it their moral duty to look after their aged parents. Senior parents can be of great help to their grown up and working sons or daughters by performing household chores
and lend a helping hand in running family businesses. They can also look after their grandchildren by driving them to school, picking them up after school, helping them with homework, and teaching them about family customs, traditions, culture etc. There would be no need for baby sitters and children would not be ‘latch-key’ children, if their grandparents look after them.
It is said that family that eats together and prays together stays together. This bond is further cemented by celebrating family member’s birthdays, academic or professional achievements, anniversaries, etc.This way the family can have a deep meaningful time together. A family where seniors and their children have a sense of obligation and commitment to the family, in service to one another can live in peace and harmony.
Not only is it economically sound to live together but also mutually beneficial to all concerned. Older parents can contribute either in cash or kind and thus avoid being a burden on their children. Where living accommodation is not spacious, privacy and independence can be a problem but this too can be overcome with understanding, respect and adjustment. In short, in my opinion, life in a retirement community, despite all comforts and amenities can be impersonal and lacking in family love and warmth.
On a personal note, both my wife and I are seniors. We live with our son-in-law, daughter and an eleven year old grand-daughter. We are fortunate to live in a spacious house, so we have both space and privacy. We can drive, so transport is not a problem. My wife works as a cashier whereas I am now retired. I keep fairly busy running errands for the family, and indulging in my passion of reading and writing as a freelance journalist. We try and help with household chores and raising our granddaughter. We participate in community and social events-either on our own or together. The same goes for vacations. I feel truly blessed as by living together under one roof, I am able to live a contented and fulfilling life.